30

today i was told that i did not look 30, and not in the bad way-meaning that i looked ages over 30, but in the good way- meaning that the commenter would have never guessed that to be my age.

it brought me to the question- "what does 30 look like?"

i always imagined 30 as

-the point where you stop wishing that you could wear jeans and sneakers to work everyday and enjoyed wearing "grown up clothes"....not there yet

-the point where you might be married and thinking about kids...not there yet

-the point where you were secure in a job field, probably settled in a career path...well i have found the path but am nowhere near settled

-the point where you might own your own home- still deciding which state i want to live in

-the point where you really started to know who you are-i think i am getting there

-the point where you realize that it may have taken you 30 years to get to where you are right now and hopefully you have 30+ more to enjoy it - definitely getting there

but in the end, now that i am 30 and i still feel as if i am somehow still at a college age in spirit, i guess there is no definitive answer to my question

.....i think the answer lies with in the person observing you, what do they think 30 looks like and do you fit into their list of expectations